Toilet Training
* What does toilet-training mean?
* Why do we have a toilet?
(there are also issues of privacy, secrecy, rules,
boundaries...)
* Why does this child have these difficulties?
* What exactly is going on?
e.g. Is the child scared of the hole?
Does he want to remain a baby?
* Who has to deal with the poo?
= it is also the father's job - to help mum deal with the poo/mess
* What does the child feel about his/ her poo?
faeces = can be seen as 'babies'/ creations, like monsters, some children want to
smear/ paint with, or eat it (= disgusting = a new concept)
… is about differentiating between
* good and bad/ evil
* right and wrong
* in and out
* there and gone
* here and there
* this way not that way/ our way not your way
* clean and dirty/ disgusting
* tidy/ organised and messy
* safe and dangerous/ unhygienic
* development and stagnation
* communication and manipulation
* cooperativeness and tyranny/ blackmailing
* order and anarchy
* life and death
… is a problem of mental function
Introducing the concept of 'that is bad'
* to do with organising the mind
* to do with the process of dreaming
* otherwise we cannot differentiate between good and bad, life and death
* and then there is no possibility of thinking = same function as putting things in and
out of a box/ order/ structure
… has to be introduced by parents
In order to avoid/ prevent confusion parents have to
* introduce the idea of rules and different places
to the child
* give clear boundaries and expectations
* help child to regulate his physical processes
and leave nappy behind
* be consistent, reliable, regular and clear
… if delayed too much - there will be
problems with school
… is about conflict
Not as you want it, but as we want it/ this way not that way
* it has to be thrown away
* because I/ parent/ we/ school/ society says so
Lots of implications
* psychological - to do with organising the mind and with the process of dreaming
* philosophical
* emotional
* social - adaptation to social structure, school, groups
* religious - the bad object is all about faeces = represent the bad part/ evil
= about containment
* if child doesn't want to go = giving child a tremendous weapon
- to withhold faeces
- to manipulate and blackmailing
Email: info@reachingautism.org
* What does toilet-training mean?
* Why do we have a toilet?
(there are also issues of privacy, secrecy, rules,
boundaries...)
* Why does this child have these difficulties?
* What exactly is going on?
e.g. Is the child scared of the hole?
Does he want to remain a baby?
* Who has to deal with the poo?
= it is also the father's job - to help mum deal with the poo/mess
* What does the child feel about his/ her poo?
faeces = can be seen as 'babies'/ creations, like monsters, some children want to
smear/ paint with, or eat it (= disgusting = a new concept)
… is about differentiating between
* good and bad/ evil
* right and wrong
* in and out
* there and gone
* here and there
* this way not that way/ our way not your way
* clean and dirty/ disgusting
* tidy/ organised and messy
* safe and dangerous/ unhygienic
* development and stagnation
* communication and manipulation
* cooperativeness and tyranny/ blackmailing
* order and anarchy
* life and death
… is a problem of mental function
Introducing the concept of 'that is bad'
* to do with organising the mind
* to do with the process of dreaming
* otherwise we cannot differentiate between good and bad, life and death
* and then there is no possibility of thinking = same function as putting things in and
out of a box/ order/ structure
… has to be introduced by parents
In order to avoid/ prevent confusion parents have to
* introduce the idea of rules and different places
to the child
* give clear boundaries and expectations
* help child to regulate his physical processes
and leave nappy behind
* be consistent, reliable, regular and clear
… if delayed too much - there will be
problems with school
… is about conflict
Not as you want it, but as we want it/ this way not that way
* it has to be thrown away
* because I/ parent/ we/ school/ society says so
Lots of implications
* psychological - to do with organising the mind and with the process of dreaming
* philosophical
* emotional
* social - adaptation to social structure, school, groups
* religious - the bad object is all about faeces = represent the bad part/ evil
= about containment
* if child doesn't want to go = giving child a tremendous weapon
- to withhold faeces
- to manipulate and blackmailing
Email: info@reachingautism.org
